Try Not To Dwell On It

Oceanica

Loss isn’t about “"getting over it,” but learning to exist in its wake. It is about understanding that grief is love, and that healing does not mean forgetting. It means finding a way to let loss become a part of life, not as a weight that drags you down, but rather a shadow that walks beside you.
March 20, 2025

From their EPK, “This 21-minute composition delves into themes of personal reflection after the loss of a collaborator and friend, offering listeners a profound and emotive experience as a result. Benedict Harris-Hayes, known for his musical versatility across various genres, has previously garnered acclaim for his work with the award-winning projects, MASS!VE DYNAM!C and ENOCHIAN THEORY. The EP's creation has been a deeply personal journey for Harris-Hayes, who shared: "Try Not To Dwell On It” is, quite probably, the most creatively challenging project I've ever undertaken. It was born from the passing of a friend and collaborator, and I had to find a way to finish this record for that person…as well as myself. I became somewhat obsessed in doing this, and I found that even in death, there is life. It took me on an incredible journey through technological development and cutting-edge audio use to achieve this record, and I cannot be more proud of that journey."

The album has only one long song, clocking in at 21 minutes and change.  It leads in slowly, with a good deal of tension. Drum beats join the fold, and the scene that is painted is one of contemplation. Slow, ominous tones combine with clean vocals in a manner that leaves the listener questioning. The big beats are crushing, but the melody in the vocals rise above them. For me, it feels like that limbo that divides death and life…a purgatory if you will, where neither acceptance or anger overtake the other. Sometimes the music feels like it is offering you a peak into both sides, but you can’t seem to be able to open the door. A rush of melody comes in, with vocal harmonies that speak, “hold onto this every time you breathe…it’s not for knowing, not our place.” There are several shifts in the first half of the song, akin to changing feelings of the five stages of grief.

Rounding the halfway mark, hopeful tones try desperately to gain footing. The second half of the song enters gently, but winds stirring in the background hint at something else. It makes me feel like I am being held in a state of suspension…unable to turn one way or the other, or make a firm decision. It seems to drag on for days, and you can feel the heavy emotion in both the vocals and the music. The closing lyrics, “time is the great equalizer” nearly sums up the process of loss, and he seems to come to some sort of acceptance with his loss. In sum, loss isn’t about “"getting over it,” but learning to exist in its wake. It is about understanding that grief is love, and that healing does not mean forgetting. It means finding a way to let loss become a part of life, not as a weight that drags you down, but rather a shadow that walks beside you.

8 / 10

Excellent

Songwriting

8

Musicianship

8

Memorability

8

Production

8
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"Try Not To Dwell On It" Track-listing:

1. Try Not To Dwell On It

 

Oceanica Lineup:

Benedict Harris-Hayes

 

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